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Don’t Read the Audience

People say that they have the skill to read an audience. They can adapt to the room and adjust themselves and their messages accordingly. What if the audience is bored, tired, skeptical or distracted? Accommodating does not help you. In fact this mindset of relinquishing control of an audience can put a speaker at an […]

Authentic Leadership

Authenticity is a critical trait in your public presence because it is what defines a great leader. It is the way you can separate people by those who say what you want to hear vs what they believe. Leaders that are authentic say words with conviction, passion and determination. Authentic leaders are genuine and are […]

Validation

Confidence is contagious. People who exhibit confidence in what they are doing & saying are more likely to have others believe and trust in them. What you need to gain confidence in your public presence is feedback not validation. In the history of public speaking nobody has ever improved by being told “that was good.” […]

There is no “I” in Leader

Today listen to people speak and count how many times you hear “I” in the conversation. “I think”, “I believe”, “I want.” The use of “I”  undermines your leadership potential. When crating your messages make them about your listener. When the message is about those you are trying to impact then it has a better […]

I’m so nervous!

“I’m nervous” are the two most said words in the history of public speaking. There is a mis-conception that being nervous is a rare occurrence when speaking in front of others. Why would you think you should be comfortable getting up & talking in front of a group of people? There is nothing that is […]

Listen to Your Eyes

When preparing for a presentation words tend to be on the forefront of your mind. ”What am I going to say?” The words are what most consumes time and it is the words that we become tied to. What if what we said mattered less than we think to our audience? what if how we say […]

The “Shark Tank” Pitch

Have you watched Shark Tank? We are addicted to this show in our entrepreneurial family. The premise is that people pitch their business ideas to five top investors who are entrepreneurs themselves. The most uncomfortable presentations, when people look nervous, lack focus and important information is not conveyed, lead to lost credibility and ultimately lost […]

How to Define a Role Model

This week my family and I attended Holiday Heroes, an event by the Wender Weis Foundation  for Children. Their goal is to turn “at risk kids into risk takers” through various sports programs. Brandi Chastain was given the “Inspiration Award” for her work with young girls. She got up to speak and was the definition […]

Thanks-giving speech

With Thanksgiving coming up this week I thought it helpful to give you some hints on how to give the best speech of thanks. 1. Make it about your listeners Example; “I’d like to thank my family who make me feel loved and appreciated.” vs “My family is special because their hearts are full of […]