coaching – Public Presence Agency – Brand Yourself Art of Building a Unique Brand Around Yourself Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:40:34 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Validation Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:40:34 +0000 Confidence is contagious. People who exhibit confidence in what they are doing & saying are more likely to have others believe and trust in them. What you need to gain confidence in your public presence is feedback not validation. In the history of public speaking nobody has ever improved by being told “that was good.” It is through honest feedback on how you are coming across and how your message is resonating,  that you will gain confidence in your public presence abilities.

A good start is to give yourself small wins. Instead of immediately setting a big goal, try setting a lot of smaller ones. You can either say “I will be a great public speaker” or instead say “I will use my voice to project enthusiasm when I speak” and “I will use the whole room when presenting to showcase my confidence.” These small goals are both definable and can be validated via feedback by a trusted source.

Find a person you trust and ask them to pay attention to your behaviors when you next present. Have them give you two things that you are doing well and two things that you can work on. This can be how you come across or the words that you are using to persuade others. It will be difficult not to focus only on what needs improving but look at the things you are doing well. The behaviors that are working for you are critical to your success. These are bright spots that you can put into the win column and continue to use to your advantage. Do not discard or diminish their importance.

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I’m so nervous! Tue, 10 Nov 2015 17:15:45 +0000 “I’m nervous” are the two most said words in the history of public speaking. There is a mis-conception that being nervous is a rare occurrence when speaking in front of others. Why would you think you should be comfortable getting up & talking in front of a group of people? There is nothing that is comfortable about public speaking. Congratulations for stepping outside your comfort zone & doing it anyway.

The key is not to let the nervousness take over & show the audience that you are nervous. You could be ready to vomit & run off the stage but the audience does not need to know that. The audience needs to believe you are in complete, confident control of your presentation.

You get up, there is a rush of adrenaline to which your body has a reaction. It is adrenaline that causes butterflies in the stomach or clammy hands. This physical reaction snowballs into you feeling nervous and then acting upon that feeling with throat clearing, hand wringing and deer in the headlights eye contact.

Behaviors are the key to masking any type of nervous habits that you tend to display. The two best behaviors are to 1. breathe & 2. move.

1.You hear “take a breath” often enough for it to sound like a cliche, but breathing helps to calm the adrenaline coursing through your body. Take three deep breaths while clenching and unclenching your fists before you get up. This will move that adrenaline through your body and clear your mind.

2. Move! If you stay rooted in one spot then you will have nothing but to worry over your nervousness. Moving with a purpose towards member of the audience will help quell the flood of adrenaline and make you appear confident by owning your space. Just don’t pace 🙂

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Listen to Your Eyes Mon, 14 Sep 2015 16:23:05 +0000 When preparing for a presentation words tend to be on the forefront of your mind. ”What am I going to say?” The words are what most consumes time and it is the words that we become tied to. What if what we said mattered less than we think to our audience? what if how we say it is the most important part of a presentation?

In the book “Silent Messages” Prof. Albert Mehrabian explains how the content of our messages counts for 7% of the audiences experience when connected to the verbal and visual of the presenter. If how we say the words counts as 93% of what is remembered of us, then we need to prepare differently.

An inconsistent message can derail your presentation. This is where the words you say do not match the behaviors you exhibit. If you tell someone that you are “excited” to present the quarterly earnings but you say it in a monotone voice with no smile, then what the audience will believe is their eyes & ears.

Behaviors are crucial in how you build your public presence brand. You need to have consistency in how you come across with what you say. There are five major behaviors that affect a presenters brand. They are published and espoused in many books and programs.

eye communication


gestures & facial expressions

vocal projection


Using these five behaviors to show yourself as a confident and credible presenter will give you a strong personal brand. Behaviors will make the words you say matter, and will influence your audience.

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The “Shark Tank” Pitch Wed, 07 Jan 2015 17:13:40 +0000 Have you watched Shark Tank? We are addicted to this show in our entrepreneurial family. The premise is that people pitch their business ideas to five top investors who are entrepreneurs themselves.

The most uncomfortable presentations, when people look nervous, lack focus and important information is not conveyed, lead to lost credibility and ultimately lost investment.

It takes three steps to have a successful pitch:

A. You must have a clear, consistent message when pitching an idea, product or business.

B. It is imperative to be in control of your behaviors and come across as a person investors can trust and believe in.

C. Stop talking and listen when questions are asked. Take each question and reinforce your core idea with the answer.

Are you pitching an idea? Contact me at to have an assessment of your messaging and personal brand.

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Thanks-giving speech Mon, 24 Nov 2014 17:41:50 +0000 With Thanksgiving coming up this week I thought it helpful to give you some hints on how to give the best speech of thanks.

1. Make it about your listeners

Example; “I’d like to thank my family who make me feel loved and appreciated.” vs “My family is special because their hearts are full of love and they go out of their way to make people including myself feel appreciated.” See the difference? One is about you and the other about THEM.

2. Be authentic

If you are going to thank people then do it with commitment. Use a strong voice to convey conviction and a pause at the end of each sentence to highlight the importance of each personal anecdote. It’s the “umph” in how you say things that make people feel that you mean what you say.

3. Use emotion

Best way is to tell a story. Think of all that has happened this year and what stands out. Tell a story that involves the people at the table.

Example; My six year old son told me “I love you so much, as much as all the numbers” and I give thanks to his open heart and endless smiles.

Native Americans have a saying, “give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.” May you have a warm Thanksgiving filled with family, friends, and a winning football team!

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Don’t Stop Investing in Yourself Mon, 17 Nov 2014 19:25:24 +0000 I have two children who are both involved in a variety of activities that all include having a coach. The coach teaches them skills that they use both for the sport and life. Why do we invest so heavily in those that are young but then stop investing in ourselves as we get older?

Mentoring & coaching is as critical to you now as it was when you were young. Having a trusted advisor to help guide you through the business struggles you face can be the difference between success and failure.

If you have a high level position in a company it is likely that you will never know the truth about how you come across to those you work with. People will not tell you if your presentation was terrible or that you give them mixed messages. When asking for feedback you will be greeted with a smile and “that was good.” Sometime what you most need to hear is the truth because that is the only way we can improve. If you are just entering the work force it is likely that you will be judged on your daily performance well before an actual review. Who, other than a coach or mentor will show you were you need improvement but also highlight the area’s you excel?

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